“When Your Focus is Far from the Everyday, the Everyday Becomes Much Clearer”

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Day 9 across Ontario. Goderich to South Hampton.
I was pumped for this ride. 94 km straight up one road. No turns. No “I’m lost”. No capriciousness. And to top it all off, a good buddy of mine decided to make the trip up to Port Elgin to spend the afternoon and early evening with me. Quality move from a quality kid.
Riding across a province can get pretty lonely. Sure I have the endless cars that drive past, interactions with motel and camp ground staff, and I even have the neighbourhood dogs that come join me from time to time, but there is nothing quite like seeing a familiar face, relaxing, conversing, and enjoying easy banter and laughs.
Much respect and love for my boy, Liam to make the long drive out. Not something I undervalue.
Trips like this, that force you to dig deep into your thoughts can be some of the most rewarding and taxing experiences of your life. The reward typically comes after the fact however, while the taxing element lingers around throughout the day, all throughout the trip. During the trip, it’s a lot of “why am I doing this again?” and “Man, this kind of sucks.” But when the ride is all done, you get a lot of perspective thrown your way.

You appreciate the everyday things and people you have in your life with much greater sincerity. You stop taking certain areas of life for granted, and realize you should optimize your feelings of gratefulness, freedom, friendship, potential and love.

As I sat having dinner with Liam, I appreciated more and more why I’m doing what I’m doing. Hell, I didn’t even own a bike 5 weeks ago, and here I am riding across Ontario. Who the fuck does this?! And ironically, I’m a rather social individual, yet here I am completely isolating myself to a bike, unfamiliar roads and towns, and connecting with my thoughts more so than with actual people. Doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. Or does it?

Coming back from uncomfortable experiences makes you stronger, more attuned with who you are, and what you want. You don’t necessarily get all the answers to life’s toughest questions, but you do get the opportunity to see what life would be like if it was all taken away from you, which i call the George Bailey affect (‘It’s a Wonderful Life’ reference. You get forced into a position to ask yourself some tough questions; questions most people avoid, yet can be so revealing.

Questions like, what brings me pain? What brings me great pleasure? What do I value in life? What will make me live without regrets? What makes me happy? And what kind of life do I really want?

The comfortable bed, the laughs, the food that fuels us properly, the convenience, the peace, the contentment, the love, the freedom to pursue hobbies and improve areas of your life are amazing things to be appreciated and embraced more often. Yet, these are all ‘things’ we tend to forget and neglect when we constantly live in a world of comfort.

I can get to the point where I loath the experiences I put myself in. Yet, I also understand it’s for a reason.

Why do i do these things?!

It’s to make me more grateful. Make me more educated. Make me more relateable. Make me a greater story teller. Make me more adjusted with the important things in my life. And it makes me more credible and authentic. Thus making me a better resource to those around me, and to myself. And this is something I re-discovered matters to be a great deal.

Regardless of the difficulties or challenges involved, I realize these moments are not the moments I will live the rest of my life in. They will suck, they are temporary and they help me develop into a stronger, more focused, aware individual. And from this, I can shape my future experiences where I “embrace the suck” to the degree that pushes me to continuously develop and grow, while not compromising the values I hold dearest to my heart for too long.

It’s ironic how the simplest of moments, like having a nice dinner with a buddy, and catching up in a cozy coffee shop with a warm hot chocolate 7 days into a lone cycle across Ontario, can make you appreciate all the small things you experience daily, and open your eyes to appreciate the small characteristics you admire in others.

To say uncomfortable experiences make you more aware is an understatement. Uncomfortable experiences are life changing.


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