Day 338/344 / 365 Days of Fulfillment Blog
Day 344/365 – December 11
“Do an ‘energy-suck’ Inventory”
Energy-sucking activities, people, jobs, conversations, and habits are something that should be avoided AT ALL COSTS. It’s incredible how one small energy-sucking occurrence can drain you of positive resources and your focus. Instead of continuously making these same energy-sucking decisions over and over, we need to consciously be aware of these moments, and avoid them altogether.
Here’s how it works: Any time I feel like I haven’t optimized my energy, I give myself a quick once over of the day, to see what might have caused this less than fulfilled feeling. After a short while of tracking, your list of energy-sucking activities becomes rather obvious. I recently noticed I was putting some of my energy into being of assistance to people who were clearly out to lunch and had no intention of wanting to find their way to a better place, they simply wanted someone to listen to their stories and make themselves feel like they were taking action. This should have been easily avoided IF I just stuck to my guns, knowing who and what I was dealing with.
I found too much of my attention going back to these waste-less encounters and conversations when friends asked how my day was; my recollection of my day unfortunately brought me back to those interactions, once again irritating me for not following my gut and avoiding these interactions altogether.
The more we take notice of these energy sucking occurrences and truly listen to them, the easier they become to avoid and dismiss ourselves from.
I have made it a rule now, to no longer interact (if avoidable) with people or situations that have wasted my time in the past or have shown me a strong reason to avoid. I also take notice of moments in my day that were under utilized, and making note of how I felt, why I felt this way, and how I can make better use of this time.
Your attention, time and energy is precious. Take inventory of the people, places and things you do in life that deplete you of your positive attitude, and do your best to eliminate them completely. Don’t think about the very small chance of what you might be missing out on (definitely not worth it), and instead think about what you have most likely gained (Totally worth it) – I.e. a neurotic client missed out on (who cares) vs time gained away from someone who will complain, bitch and dwell (BIG WIN!).
Day 343/365 – December 10
“Drive around and Look at all the Christmas Lights”
The Christmas season brings a lot of joy and festive activities to enjoy, and lights happen to be a big part of Christmas’ magical lure. One of my favourite things to do during the holiday season, is to drive around local neighborhoods, turn on some Christmas music on the radio and take-in all the beautiful lights people have put up on their property.
A well lit house always seems to boost my mood. I correlate the mood boosting reaction to what putting lights on one’s house can signify: the removal from the hustle and bustle, an embrace of a tradition, and doing something that allows other’s to enjoy as well. I also believe it’s an innate reaction and feeling to appreciate a beautifully decorated property and house, and lights happen to accentuate this beauty.
Slow down during the holiday season to appreciate all the small things that make us feel more connected to our loved ones and our community. And be sure to show gratitude for these simple, beautiful embraces of the most wonderful time of the year.
Day 342/365 – December 9
“Share Your Value System with your Partner or Closest Friends”
Values are not only critical to our own well-being, but they are the very thing that connects us with other humans or pushes us away from them. People who don’t act in accordance to OUR values are often seen as neglectful, rude, uneducated or disrespectful. For example, when someone does not offer you help, and you are the type of person who would always offer a helping hand, a disconnect occurs; another common value system disconnect comes from our ability to listen; If we are a good listener, we expect this in return, and if we don’t receive this same level of attention and respect, it is deemed as rude and hurtful.
Having an open conversation with the people you surround yourself with most is important to having that relationship prosper and thrive, rather than slowly fill with quiet resentment. Share your values, and why you value them in detail, this will help the other person understand and see your point of view with greater understanding. Remember, the things someone else may be doing, that are seen as rude or ignorant to you, they might just think is normal. Their values might have been built around a completely different foundation, and unfortunately a lot of people lack this sort of empathy when dealing with other humans that are constant pieces of our life. The key to strong relationships isn’t about treating another person how you want to be treated, it’s treating them the way they want to be treated.
Discovering what another person values and sharing your values with them will help both parties understand each other with much greater empathy and compassion. And this open communication allows for less guess work and a more adaptable approach.
Day 341/365 – December 8
“Buy items You know You’ll NEED in the near Future, when they are on a HUGE sale”
This life hack will feel like a bit of a punch to the gut in the moment, but will add up to an incredible cost savings down the road, as well as mitigate future financial and personal stress. For example, knowing that you have house hold items that you will need in the near future, eliminates the panic and desperation of having to run out and spend an absurd amount of money on said items when you are in REAL need of them. Pots, pans, and anything kitchen related can be incredibly expensive, so having the forethought to buy these when they are 70% off can save you hundreds of dollars.
The key to not overspending on useless stuff that will just collect dust is based around the consensus that the item you are purchasing will be used in the calendar year and that this item is a true “need”, not just a “want”. Think frying pan (need) vs a unique looking chair for the living room set.
This tip falls into long term thinking. Instead of thinking about the money you currently spent, think about the savings you accumulated and the stress you alleviated for yourself when the time comes for a new kitchen or bathroom set full of necessary items.
Day 340/365 – December 7
“Go to a Christmas Market”
Christmas Markets are becoming more and more popular as the years go on in modern society and for good reason. Christmas is a season that brings people together like no other; strangers are more pleasant, cashiers are more welcoming and there is a certain joyous energy that lights up the city streets, seemingly where ever you go. Christmas markets in particular add to the seasons festivities in an extremely festive way: Lights are strewn over buildings, lamp posts and trees, while Christmas music and laughter softly persists in the background.
Markets are also a fantastic place to find unique hand crafted gifts and arrangements that elicit a more personal touch to the holiday season. And let’s not forget that a traditional Christmas market will provide favourites like mulled wine, hot chocolate, and the annual picture by the over sized yet mesmerizing Christmas tree. An evening like this is yet another perk of the season, and a night out to be embraced with those you hold dear. Laugh, eat, drink, socialize and be sure to take in all the Christmas themed goodies markets are traditionally known to have.
Day 339/365 – December 6
“Write a List of main improvements to work on, during times of boredom”
This is a pretty neat exercise and fulfillment tip to increase productivity, work on something you want and know you need a bit more accountability in, and optimize open down time. This list should consist of things you actually want to improve in, maybe it’s even stuff you’ve worked on in the past, are currently working on, but aren’t dedicating enough time to. You want to keep this list fairly short, specific and meaningful, 3-5 main improvements is sufficient.
To give you an example, here’s what I put on my list: Meditation, work on consulting page, stretch and develop a virtual assistant team, and shadow box (head work, foot work etc.). These 5 items are things I truly want to see major progress achieved in, but are also things that can easily be neglected throughout a day.
We all have some down time where we end of feeling a bit bored or stagnant, and rather than wondering what I should do, or falling to a default of useless web browsing, social media scrolling, or flipping through the TV endlessly, I can instead reference my list and work on something that is of actual meaning to me. Approaching your stagnant down time with this approach will eliminate decision fatigue and help you maximize your free time in a whole new way.
Day 338/365 – December 5
We’ve all heard of working out, which consists of us doing some form of anaerobic or aerobic exercise that helps develop our physical well-being and appearance, but what about “working-in”. Working-in on the other hand strengthens our internal well-being without the necessary use of external movement or stimulation. Working-in is much more passive and calming. It’s main objective is to help us regain the energy we have used and and re-energize our system. “Work-In exercises are performed without raising heart rate or breathing rate above a resting state.” – Paul Chek
Think meditation, yoga, going for a nature hike, walking your dog, doing some cold therapy or heat therapy, stretching or breath work, for example. All of these activities are meant to help the body heal from the inside out. Working-in’s main focus is to heal, recover and reduce stress in the body, while doing something passively advantageous for our mind, body and soul.
A lot of athletes are great at working out – we are often known to even overdue it- but working-in, a form of improvement that’s critical to optimal performance, is often neglected. Passive healing and recovery goes far beyond the moment. This type of training helps eliminate anxieties, stresses and negative emotions that get in the way of us being our best self and helps prevent burn out.