Day 276-282/365 Days of Fulfillment Blog
Day 282/365 – October 9 – Mindset
“Stop Expecting Praise From Other People”
Praise is a wonderful thing. We love getting it, and it feels great to give it and put a smile on someone else’s face. But that doesn’t mean we should search for it. Unfortunately a lot of what we do is formed around receiving some form of external validation. Chasing praise like this is one of the quickest ways to find ourselves consumed with false fulfilling markers.
We want to do things for the simple fact they make us feel great. Praise will eventually come, but it will be seen as a nicety not a necessity. When we remove ourselves from expecting praise for our accomplishments, generosity and jobs well done, we take back control. We gain leverage by not expecting anything from anybody. That’s not to say we still don’t want it, it’s just that we don’t base our actions around it. When we do expect something from someone else, we give up too much control, and allow our emotional and mental state to be determined by the response of another.
It is important however to have open conversations with loved ones and our partner about what types of affection we do prefer. Ideally we will find someone who gives us what we want and deserve, remembering that it’s only a want, not a need. If we constantly remind ourselves that it’s the internal growth that actually makes us happiest, then we will never be dependent on the response of another person to make the gesture or accomplishment worth while, thus creating a greater sense of personal freedom.
And let’s be honest, good quality people who love us, will always be there for us and authentically praise us for the things we do. Those are the people that matter.
Day 281/365 – October 8
“Hang out at Your Salon/Barber”
The barber shop and salon are places that promote good vibes. Everybody is getting their new fresh cut done, and with that, we are all excited to rock our new “do”. But the barber shop and salon is more than just a place to get your hair “did”, it’s a place to hang out, socialize, share some laughs, and waste some quality time. The key is to find a place that you like spending time. Some prerequisites would include the people, the workers, the environment and of course a place that can provide you with a nice hair cut. Just remember, a lot of what makes us happiest comes from the small interactions we have within our daily tasks, and this is certainly a place to take full advantage of it.
Day 280/365 – October 7 – Connection
“Take Some Photos with a Professional Camera”
Cell phones cameras are so good these days that holding an actual camera in your hand is probably an antiquated notion. Unless your a photographer, It wouldn’t really make too much sense to have a professional camera. But with that being said, taking pictures with a professional camera is a much different experience than taking a picture with our phone. An actual camera grounds us into the experience.
There’s a connection between us and the device when it comes to shooting. It’s the feel of the camera, it’s the weight, the positioning, the movement, the deliberation and the concentration that make this experience so tangible. When we look through a lens on a “real” camera, taking a photo becomes an experience. The connection between us and the camera is a real thing in that moment. With a camera in our hand, we explore, we look for that great shot, and are much more present with the action to taking the picture. The organic, traditional aspect of photography is brought to light in a very enriching way when we dismiss ourselves from our camera phones and connect with something that enhances the experience past the actual photo being taken it self.
It’s always nice to just have this option and allow ourselves the opportunity to capture memories in a much more connected, focused away, void of all other distractions on our phones. I’m by no means a photog, but the aspect of holding a real camera enriches the picture taking experience, which aids in increasing our fulfillment by allowing us to be more present in the moment.
P.S. there are a lot of great cameras that are inexpensive yet still give us a great quality photo.
Day 279/365 – October 6 – Seasonal
“Drive to see Stunning Fall Foliage”
The fall brings out some amazing seasonal traditions like Thanksgiving, warm comfy clothes, stylish boots, pumpkin spice, Halloween and of course the beautiful changing of colours from green to red, orange and yellow. If we are fortunate enough to live in a climate where we are privy to the fall season, we know exactly what I am describing. But even if you aren’t, there are areas up North that are specifically known for their picturesque landscapes during this time of year, making it a must to see in person to garner an even greater appreciation and love for the season.
These areas are not only known for their amazing fall foliage and colour changes but the drive up is an experience in itself, typically serene, calm and utterly peaceful. This combination is a major reset waiting to happen.
Day 278/365 – October 5 – Mindset
“Build People Up”
There’s a lot of value in building someone else up, a value a lot of us rarely think about.
Unfortunately It’s easy to tear ourselves down, or pop someone else’s bubble. The very act of not saying anything to a friend for a job well done or an for an award received, is a passive way of not building someone up. Talk about easy.
But why are we so unwilling to send that positive message, give congratulations, and build each other up. I suppose because it makes looking at ourselves in the mirror with more judgmental eyes. We even see this happen as a preemptive insecurity. When we lack confidence or have insecurities about how someone may react towards us, it’s easier to break them down first as a defense mechanism or talk about our successes while ignoring others accomplishments. But this is unfulfilling and in actuality, doing us no favours in terms of increased intrinsic happiness or deeper connections.
Any little confidence boost or compliment we give someone will add so might light into their day, that if we actually took the time to build our closest friends and family up, we’d be shocked by how much stronger our relationships would become. It doesn’t matter how small or insignificant we think the compliment is, that one nice thing we say to them can turn their entire day around.
That’s the power our words hold. And with this power, it’s our responsibility to be kind and empower one another. That doesn’t mean I give everyone I run into a compliment or ignore someones complaining and give them the benefit of the doubt, but it does mean I look for things in people – who shed joy into my day – and try to make them feel better after talking with me. It’s so simple and easy, yet how often do we hear something about ourselves that brightens our day? Not frequently enough.
“Your hair looks nice”.
“You have a lovely smile”.
“I love your energy.”
“Your such a motivated, inspiring person.”
“Congrats on that recognition I saw you recieve”.
These 5-10 word sentences are game changing. The takeaway? Stop breaking people down, regardless of how confident we might think they may be, and how little we think it will effect them. Just be nice, recognize their success, get inspired by it, ask them about it and shed love. Life is much easier and rewarding this way.
Day 277/365 – October 4 – Mindset
“Talk about your Dreams with Another Person”
Sharing ideas, desires and most importantly our dreams with another person is such an intimate practice, and a rewarding experience at that. For one, when we are truly passionate about something, just talking about it will give us this spark of adrenaline, excitement and bliss. Sharing our dreams allows us to vocalize and paint the picture of what our dream will look like one day, a truly inspiring exercise. A great exercise in adding clarity behind our dreams and visions.
I know when I talk about eventually becoming a Sponsored Strength and Endurance Adventure Athlete, or a leading expert in the field of performance and wellness, I see things in a different light than when I just think about it. Vocalizing it with another person allows us to describe how it will happen, affords us the clarity to picture the experiences unfold and opens our eyes to see how enriching and grateful our life and the lives of others can become.
This practice of manifestation through vocalization is this powerful. So the next time there’s an opportunity to have a discussion with our friend, start talking about the future and potential dreams we’d love to come to fruition. Truly embrace it, rather than hide from it. Speak your truth, get excited and don’t worry about how anyone will respond. The important thing is enhancing our belief and excitement behind creating something special in our life, and engaging in a passion filled conversation with real substance behind it.
What I have experienced, just watching another person listen to me share my dreams resolidifies by passion for my vision. This is an entirely rewarding moment as well. If you express your passion like I do, people can feel it and they get inspired and jacked up about life too. And this passion filled vigor creates real energy, connection and strength.
“Day 276/365 -October 3” – Organization
“Give away old clothes”
We can all agree that a ton of clothes in our dresser drawers or closets are relatively unused. We all have that shirt we haven’t worn in 3 years, yet are still convinced it could come in handy one day. News flash, it wont.
Rather than hold onto old clothes collecting dust and that weird dresser drawer smell, lets give back, while also decluttering. Giving old clothes away is one of the easiest and most convenient things we can do to give back and make a difference. We take for granted how much clothing we have, and forget how many people could really use a warm new shirt or pair of pants. By getting rid of old clothes we don’t wear anymore, we eliminate unnecessary clutter while also helping someone else.
To make this fulfillment hack ever easier, we now even have pickup services that will come directly to our houses and pick up a bag of old clothes to give to people in need. Next time we’re stuck between keeping something we never wear and throwing it out, ask ourselves if someone else would get better use out of it. Chances are this perspective shift will make the decision much easier, affording us less clutter and the realization that we made a small difference today.